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Valorie Kondos Field knows a lot about winning. As the longtime coach of the UCLA women’s gymnastics team, she won championship after championship and has been widely acclaimed for her leadership. In this inspiring, brutally honest and, at times, gut-wrenching talk, she shares the secret to her success. Hint: it has nothing to do with “winning.”

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