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Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.
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POV: you’re here because you’re a therapist wanting to recommend this to a client, so you need to get the link.
Thanks!
A redditor told me about her
I can’t connect, I have tried ☹️
Shame? GN 2:25 goes to GN 3:7-8… Realy amazing theme!
This is resonating. I met one of my closest friends by opening up about disappointment in ourselves
POV: for some reason your quarterback coach told you to watch this for homework like wtf bro chill out
9:48 vulnerability
Hello I go to whea reply if you're also here because Ms. Sale sent you & you're bored so you looked through the comments & clicked newest
Responsibility is what gives purpose to our lives.
This may be accurate for women but not for men.
I agree with everything she says, but I also want my cosmetic surgery! Imperfection is in the eye of the beholder 🙂
Vulnerability is the core of fear & disappointment but is also a birthplace of creativity, love & belonging, connection etc . Thanks Brene, this is an amazing Talk of all times….
John Kim (The Angry Therapist) brought me here.
14:20
Half of the people here are talking about how this is so important & how they needed it in their lives & the other half are talking about how they were forced to watch this because of their therapist
Had to pause my grownish for this
Thanks ❤
Wow ?
If you cannot measure it, it does not exist. Can you measure that dictum? falls apart pretty quickly doesn't it
I don't necessarily believe I'm worthy of love and belonging and yet I feel loved. Doesn't anyone understand what Grace is? You have to join the community like a church or something. That has been absolutely essential for me, especially if you don't have a family of your own. And you have to embrace the shame that you feel and use it to reform yourself because it comes from within and it's telling you something, to stop doing what you're doing that's wrong, otherwise you wouldn't have the shame that comes from within. Anything else is pride, and pride is a huge blocker of connection. So many people don't know what Grace is or sin is. These two things are absent from our modern lexicon but they put a huge role in my being now and in my connection with others. Try to serve others because if you're serving others you'll always be welcome and honored but that again requires not having too much pride
Guys! I think this message is hugely misguided for men! Its primarily addressed towards the healing of feminine being. It doesn't address the true needs of men.
Its true that "being seen as weak" is the fear of men but a woman will never understand how visceral it is for a man and how much it can drive him.
For men, being vulnerable is NOT about allowing to be seen as imperfect – that's for women. For men, vulnerability is about choosing to strengthen those aspects of himself that are currently weak.. He may NEVER talk about it – and that's ok. But, the very action of a man, who feels weak and scared, yet chooses to strengthen IS true vulnerability for man.
Equally, men are designed to be brothers. We understand each other and its in our blood to give strength to our brother when he needs it and never expose or betray him in his weakness..
Women may never fully understand all this about us and that's ok. But, I hope men here continue to focus on healing and strengthening themselves cuz trust me – your life is indeed tough and we only have each other and God mostly
This tedtalk ripped me open, spilled my guts in front of me, showed me what was wrong, and the helped me piece myself back together while showing me how to keep it all okay. How I can continue to make it okay and good for myself and by and large, others, and I loved every second of it.
She's a good research story teller and her therapist was equally good ?
I feel like this is all easier said than done. Idk how to specifically do these things.
Your teacher told you to watch this…
I was going to send this video to a friend, but after running across stuff that looks to me like she fell hook, line, and sinker for the big pharma/MSM/political COVID propaganda — nah.
I found this video in 2022 (this video is 11years ago) and i found this link from twitter
This is often exactly how we learn what we might never learn … by listening to others, whether you agree with any of them or not. "To listen" isn't really about proving who is right or wrong (even though that's what we often do(, but that it sparks, ignites ideas, thoughts, angles, perspectives outside of our own, of which, then generate further awareness within YOU! And when that third eye opens, it leads to greater levels of awareness – there isn't merely a single level; think flight of stairs. And what really can fling it all wide open is when you realize that we are all connected, we are all one. If you can't see how the dots connect, it's a long road to travel, until you do. Plus, once you do, you can't believe how you missed seeing it before. Something as simple as believing all things are possible, just widens your lens. We limit our own view/mindset when we refuse all other perspectives as not so. Don't short yourself bc you are the only one that can. Kind of like being stubborn – you miss out on a lot bc you made it so. How many times have you heard self or others say, "My God, had I only known or realized that (whatever it was) long ago!" There is no end to learning, nor awareness. It's the light.
My therapist told me to read the book and I didn't
This video is only for women. Vulnerable men are judged in a feminist society as weak and not worthy.
I don’t get it. I may be too numbed emotionally to appreciate what others see in this.
This is beautiful!
Don’t think I’ll watch it cuz therapist said to watch it
My therapist recommended me this video, as I'm struggling with vulnerability, shame, dissociation and anger. Berne really opened my eyes. She's an incredible communicator and researcher!
This is the best TED talk I've ever seen.
Romans 8:28
I'm so emotional hearing this. Everything you said struck me. I'm learning to love myself, to see my self worthy, and I am enough despites my scars.
I mean I don't know …. I just wanna kiss this person!
People get a strong sense of love and belonging at home/family. This is bogus that they believe they are worthy of love and belonging. How can you believe something if you have never experienced it in a home/family? You destroy family and home, and you have 100s of millions of broken people. All these 'researchers' don't want to talk about the elephant in the room.
I just started a really intense program in college and had a tough day in the lab, went home and felt unmotivated to study. My relationship is a mess and most importantly, I felt extremely lonely.
Wanted to change things up so I searched for this video, which I have initially watched 6 years ago and I remember it was inspiring.
Watched the whole video, tears run down my face and I realized that I was being too harsh on myself and forgot to be grateful for what I have.
Thank you Brene, you have taken me out of the dark place and I will rewatch this video for the stormy days to come. Life is not easy but gotta have fun and enjoy it while we can. If you are struggling like me, I genuinely hope things turn up for you and you can find the light in your life. Best wishes!!!!
Stories are just data with a soul
So impactful! Thanks for sharing this Bill Soroka!
An AI told me to watch this.?
I want to hug this woman
you are amazing!
I want a banana nut muffin
Pure awesomeness even after so many years