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Morgana Bailey has been hiding her true self for 16 years. In a brave talk, she utters four words that might not seem like a big deal to some, but to her have been paralyzing. Why speak up? Because she’s realized that her silence has personal, professional and societal consequences. In front of an audience of her co-workers, she reflects on what it means to fear the judgement of others, and how it makes us judge ourselves.
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Thank u
This Ted Talk changed my life.
i've been hiding it for a while now, how would ya'll recommend i come out to my close friends?
Sometimes words feels less to talk Thank you for this ???❤
I don't understand, so she come out at 16
im gay
I'm still hiding at 57 and will probably remain hidden until I die, more than anything I wanted to have a happy life but couldn't.
Am still hiding you know
Watching this in 2022, how do you feel about bills denying employment and services to people who simply want to choose what they put in their bodies?
Damn life is hard. I mean how can you not hide from society’s overwhelming pressure. I just want to feel normal and happy.
Her anxiety is palpable. Her bravery; compelling. I am proud of her. ♥️
I’ve gone back-and-forth for 4yrs whether I was gay or not and I’m finally willing to admit to myself I am truly gay and this inspired me to NOT care what others think
Unfortunately, so many stupid people living in a bubble in the world that the best thing is for minorities to move to an area which is more liberal and has lots of people like you, life's too short; who is hated is always changing as well just to add to the mix; the other reason why moving is a good idea if you're hot headed like me there are less people to say f**k off to; just wanted to say those 90s fashions are back in
Absolute non argument. The safest thing to be is something uou are not. Then nothing can ever hurt you.
Legaliza ??
There's another, devastating personal result of hiding who you are. It is telling yourself, subconsciously, that whatever you are hiding is shameful and wrong, because if it was not something to be ashamed of, you would not hide it, right? This is how your brain sees the situation. That self-image of hiding a "shameful thing," that subconscious undertone is utterly destructive to your confidence as a person, and it will eventually leak over into all aspects of your life.
Thank you ❤️
I loved this. Very captivating on the struggles people such as I in the LGBTQ community face. Very hard to be and do with life feeling as if you will not be accepted for who you are. I love how at the end she talks about how changing who you are on the inside can help change your outer reality.
When she said the 12 years statistic, I burst into tears. Hiding who you are and letting shame build up inside you, knowing you can never be fully happy or free because you are hiding and pretending to be something you're not — it's exhausting. It's excruciating. It's a deep knowing that the environment you have been steeped in since infancy was not designed with you in mind because you are not wanted, not normal, and you will never be good enough to fit in. Yes, legally we have made strides. That's absolutely wonderful. We still have a long way to go, but that progress is not to be overlooked. But I probably still won't ever come out to my father. I'm not even sure he's homophobic. I just know his love for me is conditional and I meet those conditions because I need my parents. I will still always read the room and decide whether or not it is safe to let my mask slip off for a precious moment of freedom.
Im so gay its insane
Alot of people do accept who they are. But just because ur gay u act like it's a problem because deep down u know it's wrong. Be u. Don't try and put it on others because ur the source or the behavior. At least own it. Straight people go thru enough being treated like outcasts cuz they don't agree. Who u lay down with is ur business. U wanna force something on people. How bout how to be decent.
"When someone isn't allowed to express who they are inside, we all lose"
South Park.
The energy of remaining invisible causes murders & suicides on a daily basis. Lying about it is not a solution. Denying your denial is just about as bad as beating a person with a chain. You must take on the world, one person at a time, if need be.
As a straight person. Stories like this inspire me. People finding courage and truly living as their best and authentic selves. Go Morgana!
Excellent. Well done. I hid my true identity as a gay man for 63 years. When I was younger, being gay was illegal. I am still married to my wife after 51 years and I cared for her with MS for 23 years. She is in a nursing home now and nearing the end of her life. I don't have a boyfriend and probably never will. Too old now.
Thank you, I needed this!
Thank you
Omg
Thank you so much
The applause after " I am lesbian " is the best thing in the video. It made me emotional that people are now more acceptable
Yes be yourself what’s between your legs not your psycho disturbed mind it’s called Mentally disturbed
go brave girl. ur inspiring ♡
It’s a hard thing to do, to come out. It takes a lot of bravery to stop wanting to hide. Not just about sexuality, but anything in life that you need to be honest about, shame can really cause you to suppress your own authenticity. Sometimes we are so afraid that we won’t be accepted or that we won’t belong, that we hide ourselves.
The confused round of applause, when she says she's lesbian. Well done, I suppose?
Wow, this was profoundly brave. Women are conditioned to conform. We face discrimination for merely being women in this patriarchal society. Even today, the religious zealots are literally working toward turning America into a theocracy and have succeeded in taking the right of bodily autonomy from women. Unless you're exceptional professionally or independently wealthy and you don't care if you get fired for being gay, there are valid reasons for hiding. It's only going to get worse as the zealots continue to force their personal beliefs onto society. Religious Freedom is a mask they use to force their particular brand of religion onto the rest of us through legislation. They want a theocratic autocracy. They want to stone gays and nonchristians. They scream at 'sharia law' but want exactly the same thing…biblical law. The Handmaid's Tale is their utopia. This is why they are defunding public education, pushing the lie of creationism, using our tax dollars to fund their private religious schools. They need uneducated, indoctrinated sheep to gain more power. Yet they love to cry 'oppression' while literally oppressing women and minorities. Kudos to Morgana for coming out in such a public way.
Sexuality is just one of the things people hide.we all hide even our potential for goodness. That also has social consequences
Well done, I hid my transgender self for 40+ … your right that hiding kills you.
An icon.
this whole presentation is a person bragging about herself. She's a lesbian…BFD!
“There are more scary things inside than outside”….the human subconscious mind and its accompanying shadow have more things inside since prehistory that are more scary than many wild beasts out there in the world ?
It sucks hiding who I am
It sounds better to live europe or canada. The US is so intolerant.
"if you're going to live your life being someone else then who is gonna be you?"
I totally felt this!
I admire your bravery.
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THE GOSPEL MESSAGE IN ONE SENTENCE: God became man, Jesus Christ, and He died on the cross to pay for ALL OUR SINS and was raised bodily from the dead to guarantee the gift of eternal life and heaven to all who believe that Christ alone provides salvation and eternal life through faith in Him alone.
Jesus Christ is the eternal God, the only Savior and the sole source of eternal life. Jesus is the ETERNAL GOD manifest in the flesh as the "SON OF GOD".
We receive the gift of eternal life by grace ALONE, through faith ALONE, in Christ ALONE. NO WORKS ARE REQUIRED to get saved, stay saved or prove one’s salvation. When Jesus died on the cross, He paid for the sins of the WHOLE world. When Jesus rose from the dead, He proved He has power over life and death. Jesus offers LIFE EVERLASTING as a free gift to EVERYONE. We rely entirely on JESUS CHRIST for our salvation and eternal life.
Our salvation is eternally secure. Eternal life means eternal security and we cannot lose it for ANY reason. Once we have believed…our salvation is irrevocable by God or by us.
We don't have to stop in our fight against straight supremacy. We will never give up ✊??
The gays don't need inclusion or pandering they really need a cure!