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Beautiful. If only more physicians could be as empathetic as this man.
Yes his eyes speak volumes. Ones of grief, pain, compassion and care.
Thank you for this wonderful talk.
Giving hope onto a subject that can seem so hopeless ??.
this was incredible
Eloquent, moving, liberating. So important for us all to work, mindfully, towards this approach to life, and death… this necessary shift in perspective.
You are so amazing you are above any brave person your words the way that you saying and your belief or everlasting you are truly blessed thank you and thank you making peace between a person and the death you have found this before death finding you and that's the best piece Be blessed
At my peak of meditation, I can confirm that even our existence is grateful.
I snow plow in NJ. I spent many cold nights clearing away NJ hospital parking lots so the ambulance can get through or families to see loved ones or hospital staff coming and going. I would park at the top of the lot away from the hospital late at night, usually around 3am, thinking about how lucky I was to not have to be inside eventhough I was working in the cold out there. I always wondered who was going through a much harder night than me or who was in serious pain or who might not make it to the morning. It was so interesting when he said a hospital in Livingston, NJ. I wasn't at that hospital but it made me wonder if there was another guy like me taking a break in that parking lot wondering how the people inside were doing. I guess I was right. He was inside having a rough time and I was out side thinking about him and he never knew it.
You kick the bucket I guess.?
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Mahalo.
wow we do not care
Macca answered this with the last lyric of the last Beatle song. "The love you take is equal to the love you make" ♥
❤❤❤ this!! Thank you so much BJ and for all you do!!
I very much agree with what BJ Miller said. I was very impacted by seeing my Grandfather in a poorly run Nursing home after a series of strokes when I was in my twenties. When my beautiful wife developed Early Onset Alzheimers, I swore she would stay safe, cared for, and be in comfortable surroundings and after 8 years of the disease, she died in our home. It has been 23 months and I miss her so. I sold our home, as it was so empty. As a caregiver and a husband, there are many feelings that come out. I sometimes think I should have taken better care of her, did I do all I could or should I have placed her in a skilled nursing home. I was very protective of her and did not go that route and had the resources to have her stay home. I do not judge others as everyone's circumstances are very different.
I am glad she no longer has Alzheimer's – it is a very terrible disease. I got help with Palliative Care toward the last 6 months of her life and I wish I had looked for assistance and gotten help earlier. I encourage others to get help with anyone with Alzheimer's, the disease is relentless. To watch someone you love get sicker and sicker and there is no cure. It is very hard. As I headed toward grief, I can only say that the Medical establishment is very broken. The only help I ever got from her Neurologist was to take these 2 pills, yes she is getting worse, and will see you again in 6 months. Palliative Care I think would have been more beneficial earlier on, so I want to encourage others to learn from my journey.
Lastly, I heard something that has helped me in understanding – It was said by Stephen Colbert the talk show host as he talked about grief and loss. It has helped me understand for me and my experience with my wife…"It's a gift to exist, and with existence comes suffering".
I do not say these words to say I will always suffer or my wife always suffered, and she did not to the best of my ability, but when you go through years of caring for someone – you get lost and ask why? For me, the why is I was here to help my wife, it is part of my life experience. I did not want it or ask for it and neither did she, but in life, there is both Joy and Pain.
He spoke from his heart and first hand experience, not something learned through books….world need such people speak often….love him
Wonderful talk, very sharp man.
it felt like he was reading a book for us all throughout the speech
This men are wonderful I like him so much he's positive and he's eyes show's something really important that he spoke from his heart and he really wants us to change and discuss the really necessarily things only like death
But death for me as a Muslim I'm not afraid of death because I believing God and only God or my (Allah) can makes you die there's more details about this topic so my recommendation to everyone of us even non_Muslim don't be afraid from death because there's another life inshallah and it's very soon
All you have to do is to pay for guidance there's no trinity, only one God and he will judge us on everything we do
Peace ✌️?️
What mattered at 40 is the same as end of life.
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That is NOT how healthcare used to be — Corporate Health Care — Rockefeller Medicine in the early 1900's and through the lies of the Flexner Report transformed out health care system — and our corrupt politicians ALLOWED IT.
Thank you Sir, you are God sent!!
Well-done ?
I am more interested on how we live our lives, before our lives end. Isn't that the important part of our lives, so we can reject the communism we are forced to live under?
I really don't give a damn how I die. What is important is how we live.
We all love living life, and fate will always apply its purpose.
This amazing world that we in needs Great Earth Beings like this One. Ty
Some people go through the things that they go through to help other go through or prepare for what's ahead.
Your words bring back to me the memory of my best friend. He passed away this year, he had two badly illnesses and he told me once: "Alex, I need to die, I cannot spend more time like this" Those words broked me in to pieces. I miss him so badly.
This video tells the experience of a palliative doctor and a person with a disability due to electric shock named BJ. Miller. He explained about the process from beginning to end when someone dies. Most people, especially their terminally ill patients say that they are not afraid of dying, but that they are afraid of dying. Death and dying are natural things and all living things will experience it. However, if death and dying (suffering) are made, then we can choose how we die. From this video, I learned that being a health worker has an important role in providing care to terminal patients and palliative in helping to alleviate their suffering. As a nursing student, I am increasingly interested in studying science about terminal illness and palliative care.
Touching and moving. But I feel a bit misleading for some (as I sometimes feel when reading a homeopathic book that discusses how gently we can heal when simetimes, it just doesn't work). Death can be brutal for some to the point that no "snowballs" can be enjoyed, there are no last trips, even a pet cannot be enjoyed, despite loved one's best efforts. I speak from seeing my mom die a few weeks ago, her body ravaged… He speaks with bliss bc he survived. Others speak of increased longevity of loved ones" end of life as they did what they loved at the end… as if it were so simple. Realize you can be SO sick that nothing can eliminate the horror of pain and torture and upcoming death. That it can be cruel to the point where you question everything. That seeing your mom take her last weak bare breath and her chest stop heaving is the only peace she's known for a month. You can't choose how it'll be at the end. You can try to make it pleasant, but nothing can necessarily make it better. There are no answers.
What a beautifully soulful, bittersweet, joyous TED presentation this was. This gentleman is an inspiration. No…I MEAN that. Watch it.
Be humble or be dumble of his territory.
Very moving.
I see my best friend waste away from cancer. I needed to hear this at the moment.
His eyes are affected by what he is sayin that makes me tear
Beautiful; thank you Dr Miller.
?respect to him,I understand what he's saying..no not clever just know!