Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | TED

Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | TED

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What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it’s fame and money, you’re not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you’re mistaken. As the director of 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life.

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  1. I don't believe in this
    I have spent my time in goodrelationship but i haven't felt happiness
    Rather i think this is just an excuse to not work hard on your life
    You should work hard, make career, growth
    According to me, my happiness is self love i.e self discipline and working on my self

    If you are an introvert how can you be happy with relationships

  2. What do I think is better about life nowadays? Everything except music, movies, TV series, and whoever runs America or possibly any other country (whether it means the whole country or only any particular portion)! Why do I say that? Because people are so addicted to technology that they don’t focus enough on talent! However, it’s not technology’s fault despite what people might seem to think. Addictions are like how germs are; they hide awhile, but some take longer to affect the human mind. If we’re supposed to get help with our health nowadays, that should include brain health! Whoever is supposed to be known for talent must make sure he/she/they would know how to level up his/her/their knowledge without controversy! Cerebral fitness sites/apps such as HAPPYneuron and Lumosity can help!

  3. I recently moved to a different state for a job. I have no family here, no real friends yet, and i work from home and am currently the loneliest I've ever been in my life. I do need help because it is hard out here for a single late 20s guy.

  4. i’m 18 and i feel like my life is already over. i haven’t had any friends since i was 14. i’m alone every day. i don’t have any hobbies anymore. i don’t have any energy. all my time is being wasted and it’s all going so fast in an endless loop. i don’t know what to do. i don’t know how to make my life worthwhile. i cant make friends no matter how hard i try because i’m so awkward.. i can’t get out of bed. this is dumb i just wanted to rant in the comments because i know no one will see this. but i need help and i don’t know how to change

  5. It’s mind-blowing how something so simple can bring so much fulfillment and meaning to our lives. Yet we spend so much of our time and energy on things that don’t truly matter in the long run.

    Connections matter. People matter. Interaction matters. And the Quality of it all matters.

    Loneliness is a silent killer. We need to find this within our communities again.
    Worth noting – There is a HUTE difference in “alone time” vs feeling lonely.

    Our relationships and connections will bring the most meaning and joy to our lives. It is up to us to find those connections and sustain them. To live a happier, healthy, and meaningful life.

    Thank you for your wisdom.

  6. Whatever you said was very good, I am very happy about your life nice to meet you my name is javed i am from India City Mumbai verry nice speach i liked thank you have good day

  7. This is a simple, honest, useful and very amazing video talks based on rare research. "Quality in relationships" sounds like a trivial thing and people usually put aside for the money, career, or fame that 'they say' is the source of happiness. My eyes really opened when Mr. Robert said people only want instant things that are quickly earned like money rather than building a good relationship slowly when it is a very promising investment in old age. I also want to add, the relationship that must be qualified apart from social relations, family, and friends maybe for me who has faith is a relationship with God. So far, we are always looking for and chasing happiness without knowing that we can actually make it ourselves. I hope everyone can watch this video, so that we can live this short life with love and compassion without hurting other people's hearts to be happy.

  8. Last quote by Mark Twain:

    ' for more a century ago He was looking back his own life and He wrote: there isn' t time so brief for apologizies, heartburnings and accounts. There is only time for loving and but and instant, so for speak. The good life is built for good relationships"