How to Raise Successful Kids — Without Over-Parenting | Julie Lythcott-Haims | TED

How to Raise Successful Kids — Without Over-Parenting | Julie Lythcott-Haims | TED

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By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren’t actually helping. At least, that’s how Julie Lythcott-Haims sees it. With passion and wry humor, the former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford makes the case for parents to stop defining their children’s success via grades and test scores. Instead, she says, they should focus on providing the oldest idea of all: unconditional love.

Whether you’re just launching your adult life or finally giving yourself permission to question assumptions about adulthood, learn practical strategies to build a future that fits you from Julie Lythcott-Haims. Enroll in her TED Course “How to become be your best adult self” today: https://tedtalks.social/3OmpymZ

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  1. Whether you’re just launching your adult life or finally giving yourself permission to question assumptions about adulthood, learn practical strategies to build a future that fits you from Julie Lythcott-Haims. Enroll in her TED Course “How to become be your best adult self” today:
    https://tedtalks.social/3OmpymZ

  2. I hate generalizations like the one given by Julie Lythcott-Haims. If she means we should let kids be kids, she is wrong. Kids need guidance, without which they develop a sense of entitlement, arrogance, and an inflated and unfounded sense of confidence. Each child is different. Not every kid can become an astronaut, a doctor or a plumber.

  3. (mind, absolved, flip, checklist, happy, homework,grade, love, prays, coach them. right college, grade is bad and breathless,burnt out, what we done is not enough, anxiety, depression. not future- fail to go that college.
    courage- developing mind,
    parent think- can't do anything,
    tenet,.
    happiness in life comes from the love of our parents, unconditional love
    tyrannical-nourishing environment)– thing i noted

    My job is not to make them what they want but to support the process in what they want to be… speechless

  4. This video is very useful for parents who are too pushy on their children. It is true that it is said, that success is not always achieved with high scores, many awards, but with good habits and of course with one's own will. because if you do everything based on your own wishes then you will be able to enjoy the process more without any pressure. thank you, you have made me realize that what my parents did all this time was right. they never determined where I should go to school, what I should become, what grades I should have, they just told me to do what I wanted so that I could sincerely do it.

  5. Wow!!!!**** I do thank you for that because especially for us; People With Deshabilities; especially for being a parent as a Blind Person or other, it is very difficult and we do need some expertise sometimes in order at the end of the day, to have some confidence to help our kids grow!!!*** XOOXOX!!!*** @Philippe Bouchard (The Blind BuddyFrom Clair New-Brunswick Canada!!!!***

  6. I gave them so much freedom,never scold when they get bad grades, now they are not doing anything,not doing houseworks,not checking for university,laying down watching tv all day…im screwed? parenting is hard specially dad not helping much

  7. I felt sad listening to this and realizing my parents didn't give a goddamn about trying to ensure my future was successful. They never even talked to me about college

  8. This was an amazing talk…Now I came to understand that the same things are faced by all the kids over the world as I am an Indian most of the time me and my friends thought that Indian parents are the only ones who wanna their children to be perfect …..
    Social media has really changed mindset of people nowadays

  9. Some parents have never even raised their children. Their children have raised themselves since childhood and never felt the love of their parents, so they are easily hurt by society and become criminals. These children have accumulated a lot of disgust and inferiority for themselves. When you get older, you take revenge on the society and become a character that everyone despises. In fact, in our movies, we often see that kind of heroic children grow up to save the world, even from poor backgrounds, they can take care of their elderly parents and themselves. But we must understand that this is just a science fiction work. The reason why heroism is loved by everyone is precisely because there are no such heroes in the real society, but more vulgar people who are defeated by reality.