Building Connections: How to Be A Relationship Ninja | Rosan Auyeung-Chen | TEDxSFU

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Rosan presents the steps required to build and maintain good relationships. She proposes that the breaking points in our weaker relationships are not found in the other person, or even in the interactions amongst us, but rather in ourselves.

Rosan is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors and has been working for the last few years at Vancouver General Hospital. In her work, she provides individual and group psychotherapy treatment to adults dealing with depression, anxiety, adjustment and personality issues, obsessive compulsive disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorders.

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  1. Main Points:

    To know Others, Know Yourself
    Be Vulnerable
    Evaluate When you get bad vibes from someone
    It always takes TWO in a relationship
    Its all about Delivery: be honest but be kind and pleasant when saying it

  2. A relationship like driving a car with two wheels. There is open
    communication with every turn and decision we make. Relationships take
    effort and courage and understanding that it is not just one sided. Strong connections involve two different individuals who are fully aware of their strengths and weaknesses

  3. I just dont know how to connect with people, i wait in a queue in my local co-op store and the clerk may smile and say hello or something. And im like yeh im good and just pay for my shopping and focus on getting out there. Sometimes the odd person will try and chat with you as they're waiting. Why dont they just shut up and talk to someone else, im just minding my own business geez.

  4. I see a lot of people saying in the comments that she was not clear enough, but I feel the lessons were in the stories she told of how she did things wrong and how she did things right. I think it’s up to us to decipher the best ways to keep an open mind though out our connections new and old.

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